Feels like wrong, red light, stop.
Feels like should.
Feels like have to.
Feels like expectations.
Feels like a rebellious teenager. I know I should do this. I should be happy doing this. I am so good at this, why is it making me miserable? Everyone expects me to do this. Everyone is waiting on me to do it. If I was really serious, professional, skilled, entrepreneurial, successful, fill-in-the-blank-with-what-you’re-supposed-to-be I would do this. What’s wrong with me?
Your mind thinks: Oh that sounds like such a good idea. Such a sensible idea. Yes of course that should be the right next step.
It seems to me that should is the marker, the guidepost of when things are going off-track.
What about alignment?
What about being on the right path?
How does that feel?
So often, we say that we don’t know the right path. We don’t know what we’re meant to do. We don’t know our passion. We don’t know where we’re going, or what our ideal lives are supposed to look like, so we certainly don’t know what we’re supposed to do next.
How can we know what to do next, when we don’t know where we’re going?
Ok – so let’s scale the problem down. What if we could only know the very next step?
Or even only the next micro-step. That next micro-action that would lead us in the right direction.
Could it be ok to take that micro action, even if we don’t know where it’s leading us?
Would that be a safe thing to do?
What if you could be brave enough to allow yourself to take that action?
What if you could surrender needing to know the full path, and instead, allow yourself just to play with that next action. That next super small, baby step.
Yes, that could feel safe.
Yes, I think I could do that. I can take a micro action.
(If it feels too scary, make it even smaller. What’s an even more micro, micro-action that you can take in that direction?)
When you hit on the right next micro-action, it feels – exhilarating.
But maybe just a teensy bit exhilarating.
A super tiny minuscule part of you feels lifted and expanded. Excited. Curious.
“Ooh, what if I DID do that?” You think, with excitement and possibility. “What might happen? Could I really do that? Am I allowed?”
(Squash the gremlins before they start their chorus of “But what’s the point? That’s such a small little action, it doesn’t matter. Tons of people do way bigger stuff than that everyday. Why even bother?” Gremlins are fear. They certainly don’t know your path.)
So when you think of a micro-action in the right direction, you’ll feel a small expansion in your body. You’ll feel curiosity and excitement and potential.
You might think you need to wait for a huge YES resonating through your body. But you don’t. You don’t need a huge visceral reaction for this micro-action to be worthy of your time and attention.
The next time you hear yourself say “I don’t know where I’m going” — pause.
What micro-action could you take that would feel good?
Will you allow yourself to start moving, experimenting, playing in that new direction, without knowing the outcome or the reason?
What micro-action could you take that would feel good, and slightly scary?
Found one? Even a tiny one?
Yes? Good. Then do it, today.
And report back. We’re all in this together.
This post is part of my “30 Days of Flow”, where I write everyday for 30 days, without judging or censoring, just letting whatever needs to flow out and onto the page do just that! Today’s post was inspired by the Six of Stones (Exploitation) card from The Wildwood Tarot.
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